Free 5-minute coach hack: Unlocking your best self

The 5-minute coach presents a basic starters guide to unlock your best self.
A few basic tips to get you started thinking about how you can unlock your best self.


In my experience as a coach, everyone has a best self. It’s not one of those things that can be measured, like height or weight. It’s not even necessarily something that you can see right away—maybe not even close to it. But I do think we should all try to unleash our best selves, because it’s there and it always comes out when we need it most.

Acceptance of circumstances

Acceptance of circumstances is not the same as giving up or being passive. It’s also not the same as being a victim, either.

Acceptance simply means acknowledging that you are where you are in life and cannot change how you got here. You might think that acceptance means giving up on your goals and resigning yourself to whatever fate has in store. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Accepting the circumstances of your present situation is an important step toward taking action to create change. It doesn’t mean that change will happen overnight (or even quickly), .

Believe in yourself

Beliefs are influential. They play a role in every decision you make and affect your behavior, so they’re worth being aware of. A belief is simply an idea that you think is true (or may be true) about something.

Your beliefs about the world can influence how you see things. For example:

  • If someone says that the world is a nice place to live in, you might believe them and feel happy to be alive on Earth!
  • If someone says that the world is full of danger and bad people who want to hurt others, then this might make you feel unsafe or suspicious around other people!

Your beliefs about yourself can also influence how you act in certain situations. For example:

  • If someone tells themselves “I’m not good at public speaking” before giving a speech in front of friends or family members, then their lack of confidence could lead them into making mistakes during their speech!

Coach yourself to chase opportunities

Chasing opportunities is about being proactive, not reactive. It’s about being prepared and flexible so that when opportunity comes knocking, you can act on it.

I define chasing opportunities as having a plan and then following through on your plan when opportunity presents itself. This means thinking ahead of the curve; planning for what could happen tomorrow or next week—instead of reacting to what happened yesterday or last week.

Chasing opportunities takes practice but once you get it down, there are many benefits: higher earnings potential, more freedom over your time and schedule, less stress in life (because you’ve got everything under control), feeling confident instead of stressed out all the time—the list goes on!

Determination to succeed

Determination is a key to success. It’s the ability to keep going even when things are difficult. It’s a choice, it’s a habit, and most importantly — it can be learned.

Above all else, determination means that you’re willing to do what needs doing in order to achieve your goals—no matter how hard or how long it takes.

This skill is crucial because success isn’t just about knowing what you want; it’s also about being able to find ways around obstacles and keep going until you get there. Determination is what moves a person’s weight-loss journey from “trying” to lose weight to actually losing weight, and keeping up the (often difficult) habits to keep it off. It’s about knowing that as hard as that next step might be, it will be worth every ounce of effort.

Embracing support from others (your “free coach” pool)

Support from others is the single most important thing you can do to help yourself. This includes: having people who will hold you accountable and call you out when necessary; people who will celebrate your successes with you, even if they don’t understand what makes that success so special; and people who are there for the long haul, even when things get rough or life gets busy.

I know it sounds cheesy, but someone has to be there for us when we need them. And if it isn’t going to be me (or any of my other friends), then who? We need a support network that helps us in good times and bad times—a group we can lean on in times of crisis as well as during lulls between big accomplishments.

Internal motivation, passion and inspiration

Motivation is the spark that gets you started, the fuel that keeps you going, and the reason why you do what you do. It’s also a common cause of failure.

When we’re motivated by external factors like money or approval from others, we’re more likely to quit when things get tough or become uninteresting. When we’re motivated by internal factors—our intrinsic desire for growth and contribution—we tend to stick with our goals long after others have given up on them.

Joy in the journey, not the destination

The journey is more important than the destination. The process of getting where you want to go is the most important part of the trip, because that’s where all of the learning and growth happens. As in our last section about passion, sometimes part of that journey is just… not great. We run out of gas, or we take a wrong turn, or we arrive at what we thought was an incredible hotel to find that it’s really a hotbed of illegal activities with questionable (at best) patrons.

When you find the joy in your journey, you unlock something special. Suddenly, everything that was difficult before becomes easier. You learn to laugh off the challenges, and most importantly – you fully embrace the positive energy from your successes. What might be scary in the moment turns into a source of inspiration and continuous motivation as you move forward.

Personal growth is journey with no end. As you tackle your challenges and achieve your goals, you discover new opportunities to pursue. You find new destinations to take yourself to. Not every path is a straight line, and we often need different modes of transport to get where we want to go. When we take in the joy of that journey, we give ourselves the most opportunity for personal growth and ensure the best chance of success in reaching our goals.


At the end of the day, we all want to be our best selves. And by following these steps, you can help make your best self more accessible every day. So what are you waiting for? Get out there and be the person that you were meant to be!

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